Wednesday’s are my busy, busy days. I would say I am generally not a patient mom on Wednesdays. I have to get up early, get myself and my girls all ready to go to their schools, work at the church daycare, pick up the girls and come home to make dinner. It does not seem like a lot, I know. But for a mom who yearns for days when she has nothing to do, it is a lot.
This morning, I wake to see that it is 10 until 8. Not good. I have to leave the house at 8:30 to get all three to school and me to work on time. I curse at my alarm clock for going off many, many times and taking my continued demands to snooze. It should know better.
Sarah had a rough night. Something scared her at midnight and she was up at 2, 4 and 6 to tell me about it. Letting her crawl into bed with me seemed even less soothing for her as she kicked and wiggled all night.
So my day started out with a resounding thud. I have 40 minutes to wake, dress, groom, pack lunches, pack backpacks, tie shoes and hustle them out of the house. Almost impossible.
Almost.
I manage to get it done in record time and have them all secured in their car seats at 8:45. We should pull into the lot at exactly 9pm, allowing me at least 8 minutes to get them into school, a kiss and a hug to boot, and get to my job across the street by start time, 9:15.
Yea – well….
My children’s preschool failed to notify us that on Wednesday’s this fall, they will be entertaining 300 nondenominational bible study mother’s and have not designated a special parking area for mother’s taking their kids into preschool.
Fabulous.
I park, on a busy street, next to an empty field, get out Megan’s stroller, saddle Katie and Sarah down with backpacks and lunch boxes and head in. Across a muddy field. With three children. One in a stroller.
Needless to say, not in my best mood when I drop the kids off. I stop to say something to the Director of the preschool about a designated parking area for students and she makes excuses so I leave. Unhappy. Determined to pull my kids. With mud in my flip flops. To drag Megan and her stroller back across the muddy field.
I get to work at 9:40.
As the morning goes and we are blessed to have our one child that cries the whole time, I am off. I can’t get myself back on track. By the time I leave work, I am in no mood to do anything but go home, lay down and start over. I head to lunch with a good friend and after a tummy busting helping of chicken fettuccine alfredo, feel somewhat soothed and ready to go again. The fact that Megan insisted on sitting and standing on the table the whole time just fell into the background.
Later in the, I pick my girls up from school, happy to see 300 cars gone and actual parking spaces near the doors, listen to Sarah’s teacher tell me how tired she was again – sigh – and load them all into the car. I tell them that we have to hit the grocery store for a few things. They are elated. They love the store. The store has little carts. For them to run into my ankles with.
The store with three girls 4 and under is its usual adventure. I am constantly telling them to watch where they are going, put things back and that we have whatever item they have to have at home. It takes an hour to get 8 items.
As I am checking out, helping the girls unload their kid baskets to the conveyor belt, telling a screeching Megan that we are almost finished, a lady with her own 9 or 10 year old daughter stops by.
“It is so nice to see such a patient Mother for once.”
Ummm… are you talking to me? Surely not.
I look up and sure enough, she is smiling broadly and indeed, talking to me.
“Well, despite the chaos, they are blessings.” I say.
Where did that come from?
Who cares? She has made my day. And I think I have made hers.
A kind word can elevate a day to new horizons. Especially a day that started with a thud.
So today is a good day.
**Originally published 9/15/2010**
You are so right … sometimes the simpliest thing can turn a bad day in to a good one. My day was improved by a long walk with my dog … it started out with me feeling exhausted and not wanting to get out of my pj's!
Hope your day tomorrow is even better!!!
And yours too!
I love this post, thanks for telling your story! It’s amazing how a kind word or compliment to or from a stranger can impact us in positive ways or cause our mood or focus to do a complete 180!
You are so welcome!! I tell you, this happened 4 years ago and I still smile when I enter a store thinking about it
Great story. It’s a good reminder to pay it forward whenever you can, even if it means a few kind words.
Great story. We all have days like that. Sometimes all it takes is a compliment from a stranger to let you know you’re doing an okay job!
Im glad to hear you have such patience! With my ONE I sometimes have meltdowns myself and need a break.
That is an awesome story. I have absolutely NO patience at all!
I have ZERO patience and even less tolerance. Glad to hear someone got my helping!
Patience is something all moms have to work on from time to time. It is so great that someone noticed that you were keeping it together and was kind enough to say so!
Patience is something everyone has to work on from time to time. There are days when we can only take so much.
It’s nice when someone notices. You were doing a good job and being patient even if you didn’t feel like it in your head. LOL
Your post almost made me cry!! Oh the life of a mother and then another mother making everything great again! Perfect!
this is the life of a parent. unpredictable and rewarding
Some days are just tougher than others! I love how you document it, it helps to get it out of your system!
Mitch
What a sweet story. It’s so nice when someone else sees something about you that you can’t see at that moment.
It’s amazing what a kind word can do. Knowing that, we should definitely make an effort to give kind words to others as well.
This sounds like my Tuesday of this week. Unpredictable appointment at my daughter’s doctor. Exhaustion setting in. Work not finished. Overwhelmed yet others commenting on not even realizing something is off. I think I look exhausted in the mirror.
I loved reading your story. You have a wonderful way with words. Sometimes, all it takes is a kind word from someone to turn a crazy day into a good one. :)
Aww, I hear ya ((hugs)) – I have 5 plus a step-daughter plus a daycare in my home. I totally ‘get’ chaos! It’s chaos, chaos, chaos… until BAM, you realize the blessings you have makes it all worth it.
I can’t imagine! I don’t have children, but I’m sure it can get trying at times.
I’m definitely too impatient. I am trying to work on that.
That was a nice compliment. I have some days that are better than others, but definitely try to be patient.
I try to be patient… but it is so hard. It’s definitely not a virtue for me, that’s for sure. ;)
I am super patient with other peoples kids (as a teacher), but I admit I get very frustrated with my boys. I feel like they are driving me bonkers lately.
She just made your day. That’s so sweet! I agree that parenthood is all about patience!
This is a really great post. Patience is something I need to work on!
I wish I had more patience – or at least it wasn’t so hard to use it. I do try to be better every day though. My kids deserve that from me.
Sounds like you had a busy day. And it does patience to have those days.
You sound like a busy woman! I do wish I had more patience…
Some days it is tough to be patient but such a must!
Busy day is right! I find my busy day to be Tuesday and having to constantly be patient otherwise it would go down the drain and I’d get nothing done!
I can totally understand the frustrations. Definitely would turn my mood around to have that compliment
Oh I had frustrations in the day bringing up my children. I totally feel for you! You are quite the busy woman.
You’re lucky your kiddos love the store, mine don’t like to go grocery shopping. I’m glad someone made your day, despite the slow start. ;)
You just recapped my day! seriously though, I have the same frustrations and then someone reminds me how lucky and blessed I am :-)
Not a mom yet but I love getting all the tips I can now!
That poster is totally me! I have a lot of patience, too much I think.
That’s pretty crummy about the parking spots at the daycare. I’d be soo irritated.
That poster is me all the way! I can soo relate to that.
Loving that someecard! Definitely applies here! What a day you had!
What an interesting day. Glad it got turned back around in the end.
A kind word can mean so much, especially at the right moment. I hate when my days get off on the wrong foot.
What a day! After all of that, her compliment would have made my day too.
I definitely admit I like patience. A LOT!
Oh goodness! I have totally been there. Sometimes, you just gotta take a step back and gather yourself together!