Sometimes I forget that my husband is a dad too and that he loves his kids and wants the best for them just as much as I do. I don’t mentally forget, exactly, but more just think “I can do it better” when it comes to the kids, I think.
I am home with them all day and just think I know them better and can make better decisions for them than he can since he is at work all day. And long days – 12 – 14 hour days.
But this week I was put in my place and firmly.
As you may know, I left Wednesday and was gone through this Sunday for the Chimpanzee World Premier. Since we don’t have outside help, my husband took three days off of work. No small feat for him in his busy season. I can only imagine the steam coming off of his cell phone this week!
A week before I left I found out about two school events for my children and realized that there were two birthday parties for the kids on that Saturday. Not only did I feel incredible mommy guilt for missing the events but I felt like he would have to miss at least one of the parties. As all parents know, birthday parties are a blast but can be quite exhausting for the parents!
And even though he said before I left that he would take them to both, I felt like only I could handle that and he would be too tired, stressed out and exhausted to handle it.
Boy did he prove me wrong!
Not only did he dress my girls beautifully for the school events, he took photos and sent them to me, handled three daughters and their constant trips to the bathroom effectively and did it with a smile on his face! In addition, he shopped for two birthday parties, got them there on time, took photos of them there, chatted among the adults – as opposed to standing in the kitchen and banging his head on the wall over and over again like I thought he might – and actually seemed to have a really good time with our girls!
To top it off, he got together with 2 sets of neighbors and their kids and let them play and have a good time!
In other words… he did exactly what I would do and he possibly did it better!
So I raise my hand, admit my guilt in forgetting that he is a GREAT dad all the time, even if he is not here because of work, and send out my heartfelt love and thanks to him for taking such amazing care of our kids! Because if I did not have him I would not be able to do what I do. And that says a lot.
And thank him for reminding me that, in truth, a Daddy’s Work is Never Done!
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This is awesome. My man and i are in an iffy situation as far as money and all that crud. But just because he is wrapped up in work and his music i forget that he knows a ton of stuff about our 2 year old boy. Daddy is an integral and important part of his life and sometimes i too get the “He can’t do this no way” in my head. And even though things suck right now, he continues to surprise the snot out of me on a daily basis when it comes to our son. =]
I totally agree with you. We share every thing fifty fifty. Expenses, works.. but when it comes to kids I think I am doing many comparing to my hubby. I am happy of my role as a mom.
What a sweet post and he did wonderful with them and this is something the girls will always rememeber. You have a awesome husband as do I who is using his only day off to watch my son so I can work in between helping out our apartment manager and working on a play ground with my son.
As my experience daddy’s job is not much countable. No body cares much, it is much cheaper than mummy’s work. But I am also a good daddy.
As my experience daddy’s job is not much countable. No body cares much, it is much cheaper than mummy’s work. But I am also a good daddy.
I think being a dad is a wonderful feeling which a human can get in the life. But with that so many things will be added to the life. The important thing is the responsibilities.