This weekend, my husband took the time to teach Katie how to swing herself on the playset. He is a great dad, he is, but it was more for selfish reasons that he pressed it. We are both so tired of pushing the kids! Is that awful? If it is, oh well. It gets old. The constant, “Mommy, push me!”; “Mommy, push me first.”; “Mamamama – weeee.”
I can only stand out there, pushing until their heart is content, for so long. And then I get irritated, I can admit it. I want to go in, do more with my day than “push them higher”. It is not like this is a once a day trip to a park. This is in our backyard and is a constant source of their daily play.
My husband and I high fived and chalked Katie’s ability to swing herself up as a parenting success. Crediting his parenting genius, we reveled in the newfound joy of having one less kiddo to push.
It did not last long.
Sarah, having lost interest for the moment on the swings, was in the sandbox, eating dirt. A time out, a pop on the hiney, and a plea from her mother later, and it was time to remove her, deal with tantrum and go back to feeling like a parenting failure. This is not, after all, the first encounter we have had with this issue. We even got rid of the sandbox for a year because of it. But it persists, promising to be the bane of my existence.
And then Megan would not nap. Begging for the 7568th time, the question: Why don’t kids sleep when they are tired? Especially when they have done it their whole lives, same time, every day? A screaming fit later, and she settles. I am exhausted, stressed out, and ready for a nap myself. And I feel like a bad mother for forcing her to nap when she didn’t want to. Even though I knew she needed one.
It is interesting to me how a day in the life of raising kids can supply so many emotions, parenting successes, and parenting failures. No wonder parents are so tired by the end of the night! And, at least so far, it is never ending!
Thank God! ;)
Speaking as a mom of triplet boys who are now 4, I totally unerstand your roller coaster of emotions. Believe me I get it…and why don't kids sleep when they are tired? I want an answer to that question…because at 9pm I am totally zonked and heading to get some zzzz's. I'm a new follower and I am visiting from the Jingle Bell Blog Hop!
Maureen :)
so funny! I too have a very limited patience for pushing on the swings. I am SO glad my kids can do it themselves, but alas there is still the MOM – watch me! that doesn't seem to end. I am told I will miss it when it ends, but so far I can't imagine…. :)
Take my word for it, after 6 kids to push on swings, force to nap, attend class parties & field trips… I found it all a lot of work.
It's a fine line we have to walk for everybody's sake. How to be there, guide them (sometimes force them)and be involved enough without being a helicopter parent or convincing your children the world revolves around them.
It adds up to being a very hard job.
ps: I can do swings about 10 minutes before I'm bored out of my gourd. I don't do the circus no matter what.
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Just found your blog today. I am new the the blog world. Glad I am not alone. I can't wait until my 3rd (she is almost 2 1/2) can swing alone so I do not have to push her "super high" ever again.
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