I woke up this morning having slept well, despite allergies flaring up, and turned on my computer. I looked at my calendar and to do list and started to plan my day. I need to get to CrossFit, I need to fold laundry, I need to get things ready for my assistant who comes in this afternoon. I have posts to write, contracts to negotiate and emails to sort through. At 5:30am I was feeling like this was going to be a productive, positive day. Then I opened Facebook. Spattered down my feed, … [Read more...]
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The New Year is here and the most popular resolution is to lose weight. Now, listen, I am all for it. We all know that carrying around weight is the number one threat to our health. Plus, we just feel blah when we do not like what we see in the mirror or how we feel at any given time of the day. But I also think we are focusing on the wrong things. My goal in working out, and my sport is CrossFit, is to be healthier for my kids and for my lifestyle. It is not to hit a number on a scale or a … [Read more...]
I don't know if I have ever told the story of my middle daughter, Sarah's, first birthday party. It shaped my decision making on things I will have in my house and in my yard for, not only my kids, but kids that come over to visit. As my friends get things in their home that I would not have in mine, conversations have started about the safety of kids who come over and want to use them. The main question is, Are you Liable if Kids Hurt Themselves at Your House? It was a beautiful day. The … [Read more...]
It's late and I can't sleep. This is when the world feels heavy. When doing it all alone loses its charm. When I start to search for the answers that can only come from inside of me. When I have to admit, in the loneliest of hours that it is me. I am the reason that I am one of the ones that has never known true, unconditional, romantic love. And I wonder why, even though I know I Am Not the Only One, Why Do I Feel So Alone? Now, before you think this is going to be a 'woe is me' piece, it … [Read more...]
But I also wondered, Do I Deserve the Credit for my Kid's Successes? Do I really? Isn't it just by nature that she is my little activist and fighter for the underdog? Do I really deserve any of the credit? During the holiday season many things fall on a mom's shoulders. We take it, we handle it and we move on to the next thing as the pressure of having to get one thing done merges into something else we have to get done. During December, with my work life taking 10 - 12 hours a day, my oldest … [Read more...]
Personally, I hate that term. I am Just a Mom. To me it takes away the total value of a woman. I was watching a talk show the other day and on it was an actor discussing the birth of his child. Thinking they had all the time in the world as it was their first child, the baby crowned and came as he was on the phone to the midwife. His elegant and entertaining description of catching his child as his wife crouched to have him was so entertaining that I stopped what I was doing to watch and to … [Read more...]
I don't know what it is. I don't have much to complain about. In fact, I really don't have anything to complain about. Except maybe the constant state of my house. The never ending piles of laundry. The dishes that pile up the second you hit wash on the dishwasher. But that is motherhood. The consistent to -do list, the constant dealing with personalities, the 'it's never going to end' pile of crap. That is what I signed on for when I decided to have kids. I really have no right to complain. … [Read more...]
It was a beautiful day. My friend was getting married, the weather was perfect, the bride gorgeous and the friends aplenty. My girls and I were all in our wedding best and the party to celebrate the long awaited union was underway. It was not until I saw a Simulated Mass Shooting App aimed at my kids that my day was, literally, ruined. Let me paint the picture. All of the kids at the wedding, maybe 10, were outside playing in the grass area. The sun was down, the air carrying … [Read more...]
If you ask a mom if she has ever lost it on her kids and she says no, she is lying. If you ask a mom if she has ever regretted things she has said to her kids and she says no, she is lying. If you ask a mom if she has ever felt she has ruined the innocence of childhood by speaking the truth a little too harshly and she says no, her child is probably under 2. The day I told my kids the whole damn truth was eye opening for them, uncharacteristic for me and a harsh lesson in how far I am willing to … [Read more...]
Just because we had the kids does not mean that parenting is all we thought it would be. What do you do if you hate being a parent? "But I don’t want to do any of this. I don’t want to parent at all. I thought I wanted kids, I did want kids, I had absolutely no idea what it would be like and that I would hate parenting. I don’t hate my kids, I hate parenting, it’s not just sometimes it’s in general. This was not what I thought it would be. I don’t want to play with them, I did not think that I … [Read more...]
The news has a great affect on how we see the world. When I turned off the news, my days got better. In this house, television is not king. I watch it late at night when the kids are in bed but mostly, unless the house is too quiet, it is off. The kids don't watch TV during the week and that makes movie night even more fun around here. During the summer the house was way too quiet when my kids were at their dads. So I turned it on. ABC News and I became friends. I got hooked on the nightly news … [Read more...]
**Originally Published October 2011** A few months ago, I overheard some things that someone I love said at a party about me. It shattered my world. My security, my belief in what I was doing with my life, and my stability were shaken to the very core. I heard my husband tell his friends and some new neighbors that I didn't even know yet that he had 'settled for [me] when he found out the true love if his life was in a relationship and getting married.' He went on to tell them that he, and … [Read more...]